Testimonials I am now posting testimonials about once every 4 to 6 months. (January 4, 2009) "I just wanted to write to you and let you know how much your book, The Dance of Wounded Souls, has helped me. I have read a lot of books on codependency, but your book lead me to the real issues. I feel like I'm finally getting to the core instead of just working on the symptoms. I'm 40 years old and have been divorced for ten years. I have attracted one dysfunctional person after another into my life. I reached the point where I never wanted to try to have a love life again. But, I knew that the common denominator was me. That I would have to work on myself before I could have a healthy relationship. Your book resonated with me on so many levels. Thank you so much for your work and loving insight on a topic that needed to be studied further. You have done it brilliantly and I have recommended your book to several friends. " "I was quite impressed by your writings, particularly on the subject of Magdalene and Christ...Thank you for your raw courage... Amen." "I am currently listening to my new discs of you reading your book. Thank you for putting this all together. I first went to Al-anon 40 years ago, and from the very first meeting I was "hooked" and on my way to recovery. Over the years, I have read and studied much along this line - but yours is absolutely the best!!!!! I don't know how you managed to put all this together ine one package - spirituality, co-dependence, quantum physics, ---but your work is very powerful." "i need to tell you, i have been in the field for over 20 years, and just read your book, "dance of the wounded souls" i believe it is the best book i have read on codependency ever. i shared this with the 12 people iam working with this week, and they all plan on buying it, along with with my peers. thank you for the great info." "I know you probably receive a lot of emails, but I just wanted to say thank you for the articles you have on your website. They have been immensely helpful to me, especially your article on setting personal boundaries. I never actually realized how much control I give to people, but you have opened my eyes." "Thank you for your very descriptive and accurate analysis of so many psychological/behavioral questions I have. Your work is truely an insperation that should be used as a model to teach and enlighten the world. I know that there are very few who have even come close to your level of understanding, I have searched for a long time and concider your work to be the only successful find." "I have found hope and inspiration on your web page. I think this is the first time I read the term 'internal boundaries'. That phrase resonated like a bell ringing." "I am quite impressed with your writings on co-dependency. Although I am not an alcoholic, nor do I eat obsessively, my co-dependent symptoms and the logic behind them are well scripted at Joy2MeU.com. Actually, I've done alot of reading over the past few years and I've never come across any single book or website that almost point for point addresses the totality of the issues I am working on head-on. So I thought I would write this quick email to make contact and thank you for sharing your thoughts. At the very least, I now know I'm not alone. In all instances I will incorporate your thinking, which solidifies and expands upon my own, into my recovery plan going forward." "Your Books and web pages have meant so much to me - I am soon to be 79. Unhappy not to learn these things sooner, AND HAPPY TO BE LEARNING THEM NOW." "Thanks for your good work. I would be interested in the Dancing in Light subscription. I find your ideas interesting and am joyful to hear of your progress. I can relate to Codependency and was attending meetings for a while. Best regards to you and your expanding work." "I really like what you're saying. I'm an adult child of an alcoholic and have worked on my codependency for years. I'm now 48 yrs old and still dealing with it. I thought I had it licked but a recently failed romantic relationship really showed me I was wrong. I find what you are saying is deeper than what others have said and for that I am very grateful for your work. I ordered your book and will read it soon. I wish I could attend one of your lectures, but I live in Virginia and it would cost a lot of money to come out there for a one day event. I don't know yet if I need telephone counseling, but I'm glad you offer it. I have a lot of reading to do on your site." "Thanks for all your insights, they are a blessing." "I hope someday/somehow you will truly know how much your words have meant to me and helped ME to change my life, I couldn't imagine a more valuable gift from another human being ;-)" "I just wanted to write to thank you for your website and the material you have made available on it. I have not purchased your books yet but think I will do so in future. I have been sooo helped by what you have written here. It has made me realise what is going on my life, and what I need to do to change it. Your analogy of not letting your wounded children 'drive the bus' of your life was so helpful. I can see that this is exactly what has been happening in my life - my wounded children have definitely been driving the bus. Now I am learning more and more to develop a loving adult and a connection with God that can help to heal those wounded children and so I can reclaim myself again. Thank you so much." "Thanks, I've finished the book & found it both helpful & inspiring. I stil read the website almost daily & enjoy that also. Thanks again!" "Thank you for writing about your friend Robert and his passing. I lost my best friend to alcoholism four months ago and she died alone also. She was in a treatment center for eight weeks and stayed alive for five months after. I was with her for two close calls a couple of years ago with her throwing up blood and I never knew then that she was an alcoholic. She hid her drinking from me and when I say that I mean that she would drink a couple of drinks with me in the evening then but apparently she drank more. Her husband found a lot of empty wine bottles hidden all through the house.. Anyway I think of her often and she was my best friend." "subject: A brief message from my inner child He found your website, and he wants to say thank you. Thank you for the time you have spend exploring this emotional disease, and the wisdom that you impart upon it" "I am working and listening to your audio, and it is just amazing. So right and accurate, and just confirms what I knew for many years. It was only that being in the middle of mostly ignorant people, it was sometimes impossible to believe our own feelings and visions. Anyway, i absolutely love it, and have recommended to couple of people already." "A friend of mind shared the her CD's with me. There was so many words and ideas that resonated with me that I decided to have my own copy plus the book so I can go at my own pace to digest all the concepts that validate what I have been thinking for many years. You have a gifted way of presenting that material. Thank-you for sharing your gift with those of us who need to hear the message." "Thank you for your insight at Joy2MeU.com. . . I have found your sight to be very informative and compassionate - so thank you!" "When i googled codependency your website was one first that i looked at. That was back in April, but just by reading your website started the little seed that is now a tree of growth. For that i can not thank you enough. thank you." "I also just want to say thank you for your website and work. Just reading some of the material on your website gives me a feeling of hope for positive changes for the future." "You know, your book has set me free. As the youngest in a family of five daughters, a strong patriarchial father and a mother who did her best and stayed true to her principles the best way she knew, I am surviving best by staying in as close a relationship as I can with the Mystery. Thank you, Robert Burney, for helping me discover the wisdom of my own voice. God bless you." "I found your writings on the web while studying the topic of codependency. Your insight is truly fascinating and refreshing. Thank you for posting and maintaining your website. Your teachings helped me understand and accept myself and have taught me how to approach love in a healthy, balanced way. I'm a heterosexual male, 33, recently divorced. I'm a full-time musician as well. Thanks to God and yourinsights, I'm happier now than I've been in a decade or so." "i've been drinking(!) in the information on your site and it's helped me so much already, just to recognise myself and my patterns I want out of this codependance and the toxic relationships i've been attracting. i thank you so much for sharing the information and your experience it resonates with me on every level." "I found your website by googling "letting go" and came to the page "letting go of unavailable people". I began to read through the inner child healing pages and the romantic relationship pages about a week or so ago. I have spend the last 4 days just reading your pages. I too am in recovery (NA since January 26th, 1988) but still struggle with codependency issues. I was at my lowest point ever when I found your website. It is helping although I am still agonizing about losing the guy I met a year ago after many years of being single. I never thought I would "fall in love" again. Once we met I ran towards the relationship while he soon began to run away. We have been doing this dance for a year and it seems hopeless. I am trying to accept that it is over but my abandoned child will not let me accept it. The pain is unbearable sometimes. I really thought when I met him that I had found my soul mate. It is not that I can’t live without him but I don’t want to. I have gotten through many dark times in my 20 years in recovery but this one has practically destroyed me. When I read about how you were yet again setting yourself up for a birthday alone (mine is next week 9/27) and called a counselor (the one who was going out of town but let you talk to him while he was packing) I reached for the phone and called a number given to me by a trusted professional (my chiropractor) of a holistic healer. I am seeing her next week and after speaking to her on the phone I know she will be instrumental in getting me to re-focus on my spiritual path. She does energy work, meditation and other stuff. I have a wonderful therapist, a solid foundation in my recovery, a wonderful sponsor, and good friends. I feel so alone though and so unhappy and empty. I do have a glimmer of hope and am facing my inner child wounds and the grieving process thanks to your website. Anyway – thank you for writing about your journey. It has helped me and I will keep reading. " "I just viewed your website and have been reading your words which have compelled me to write to you. I think you are phenomenal in your approach to co-dependency and life in general." "I did resonate a lot with your website-very authentic- and similar to ideas I've explored in my own writing and healing experience from both on an individual and macro level. I had never thought about codependency the way you described on your site, and I am a poster child for the description you outlined." "I just want to let you know that i think you are great by the way and your website info has helped me so much as I am going through a tough break up!" "Reading your website I find you a kindred spirit." "I googled in parents of addicted children and your wonderful site came up with its inspirational words." "I would like to say Thank You I knew I was a co-dependent but I didn't know how to love or let myself be loved you have inspired me to take a deeper look at myself and the ghosts that live within. So I can learn to let others in I have found with myself that I only let a little of myself be revealed and didn't know how to have a open and honest relationship. I have always been the one who gave with nothing returned, finding those who were emotionally unavailable knowing that it would always end, that was always my course of action. Reading what I have I know that the first thing is to forgive myself first and to love me, so that others can truly love me. Once again thank you for the path and to be enlightened." "thank you for putting such a great work and helping us all to grow and understand. Love and joy 2 you Robert." "I am so pleased to have received your wonderful book so quickly. This has to be the deal of the century. I was awake until 5AM reading all of your additional web pages my purchase gave me access to... what a privilege and an upgrade!!!. (not to mention the emotional upheaval I anticipated. Feeling and not releasing has not and does not work for me... I'll have to get to work to get rid of the mental and 'heart congestion'!)" "I have found reading your website very helpful and look forward to hearing the audio version of your book." "I wanted to let you know that a Higher Power used your writings to help me. Here's my little story. :) Recently a friend and I parted ways. I was spending a lot of time thinking about the relationship. One night the serenity prayer came into my head. I found myself going through the lines of the prayer and thinking, "I've always liked that prayer since I was a kid, but I don't understand it." I said to God, "What does it mean? Everything is so fuzzy. There's so much gray area. How do I know what I have control over and what I don't?? I don't understand! I don't know how to apply the prayer to my life." The very next night, I searched for something in google (I can't remember the phrase. It might have included the word shame. Possibly it included the word co-dependency, I can't remember.) One of your webpages came up. I started reading what you had written. Almost immediately, I came upon what you had written about the serenity prayer. I had one of those very special "aha!" "answered prayer" moments. Not only did the meaning of the prayer become very clear to me, and not only was I thanking God for leading me to the site and answering my prayer, but I couldn't believe how much I needed to read what you had written, and how illuminating and helpful and applicable it was to what I was going through. I would read a few sentences, and their power would make me stop in my tracks and reflect, and then I would re-read them before I could go on to the next sentence. It all rang so true. I could relate. It tied so much together. I kept reading/reflecting, reading/reflecting, reading/reflecting. I slowly read pages on your site almost all night (something like midnight - 3 am!). It was a special time. I just wanted to thank you very much for writing your book and creating your website. I'm looking forward to receiving your book! Thanks again!" "I felt compelled to mail and say I found comfort in this site." "Robert.. I’m just excited as can be, to proclaim who I am, and what I’m doing.. and feeling. I found your pages some weeks ago, and have used the knowledge within them, Bigtime! I suppose the reason for this email is that I had the opportunity to experience something that would have set me back months ago. Instead of feeling worthless, full of self-hate.. desperate. I feel all the emotions from the experience itself! Grief, anger.. acceptance. I owned them, and they ran their course. And I’m still here, and feeling whole; as though energy flows in and out of me. Own it! It’s perhaps a familiar story for you .. I have been in and out of a dating situation with a highly ‘counter-dependent’ woman, she’s the spitin’ image of a woman that excited you once several years ago. She’s charming, pulls me in.. but ultimately denies me in one form or another. I see her fear clearly, I respect it, I do what I can to dispel it within the boundaries I have established for myself. The final result is the same, from the surface view, inside I am not the same person. I am in control.. not at the mercy of emotional tides that ebb and flow. Unbelievable. I now stand in the face of something that once killed me… unblinking. It’s working. And I feel beautiful. This is my future to keep working for." "I've been reading your website over the past couple of years, and I always find a paragraph or sentence that speaks to me, as though you knew my story." "I have been reading a great deal of the content on your site, I find it both enlightening and humbling and very much correct! Your work is appreciated." "I bought the Inner Child Healing E-book . . But I just wanted to say that your e-book really hit the spot. I have been going to Al-Anon for about 2 years and have been working the steps with a sponsor since February and am on Step 4 and have gone through a ton of healing. . . The things that hit me because they are really relevant, was 1) integrating the self, which I am completely focused on, 2) the magical thinking inner child and the critical parent. which is completely me and I am focusing on this because it really affects my life, and the whole concept of love, I am a deeply spiritual person when it comes to nature and almost to a compulsive standpoint but when it comes to men I am attracted to I am filled with fear....and fear is a huge part of my day to day life, though I will admit less so than it was....so everything you wrote about I actually am pretty aware of and working on, but somehow the way you put words to the page really made it jell for me....... So, I know I will go back to this Ebook from time to time just to remind myself of things...... but it just was incredibly timely and "hit the spot" of most of the things that I am trying to kind of mix together..... ANd I guess Love is the key ingredient which for me is fine with nature, dogs and women but really hard with men and myself.....so it is obviously easier to start with me..... THank you for this great piece, and thoughts and insights." "I have been working on my inner child stuff for a long time. Your thoughts and beliefs have given a new dimension to my on-going recovery. I'm also in a 12 step program (al-anon) and that has put a great many things in prospective for me. I wish you all that is good and connected." "I am reading your book at the moment. Your writings make a lot of sense to me, and are helping me to fill in some of the gaps in my understanding of how it all came about and how it all works. What you are bringing to the world is so important, it's so important that people who walking the path of recovery themselves are open to sharing their path and learnings with others. I salute you in what you are doing." "This is the second copy of the book i have purchased. I lent it to a friend but didnt get it back... so i need another copy to keep handy and keep me on track with life!" "Terrific timing, just before the New Year, and at a time in my life when I'm most ready to learn from it. It's resonating more with me than any other book (and many therapy sessions) on the subject, and it comes at a time when I'm opening up much more to things Spiritual." "Thank you for your work and sharing. I was lead to this from inner direction and my desire to become healthy. I am ever so grateful that this enlightening information spells out most of it for me so that I can understand more concretely." "I love your work and feel blessed in finding it." "I have gotten a tremendous amount of healing from your writings and your book and I am truly grateful." "Robert – I am thankful to have found your site after a romantic breakup." "I just wanted to say thank you. Your website has saved my life! I have been looking through your pages now for nearly three years. My marriage was failing, even though it was a load of crap anyway. My ex husband was as equally co-dependent as I was. However even now, it was like I had a deep rooted emotional tie, that even still now I feel with him. However now I recognise what it is and it is not good for me or for him. However, I am not the same person that I was then. In about May last year, whilst reading through your inner child healing pages, and it felt like everything I tried to control, I had to let go of. I remember going to see our marriage guidance counsellor and I could not stop crying or shaking, I remember telling her that if felt like I was 11 years old. I cried and cried and cried. Actually it only lasted about three days, but it was such a relief to let it all go. . . God guided me to your pages, I wouldn’t be where I am now, if it was not for you. Again, thank you so very much." "I have been reading a lot of information on your site recently re inner child healing and have found it invaluable. So much of what you have written about resonates with me completely and I now feel I have got to place where I can understand more fully why I feel the way I do and have chosen the relationships I have in the past. The great thing is now that I know I can change things going forward!" "Thank you for being such a beneficial presence on this planet. Your work is so needed at this time!" "I really gotta say I love reading your stuff I have learned so much clear plain talk detailed emotions, emotions is where I lack in handling I found your web site when I realized that I was co dependent , I can’t wait to read book 2 , I have the first one at home,although I thought the book would have been bigger but I was not disappointed when I read it. Keep up the great writing and thank god for you, cuz know I can learn and so many others I recommend your site to many people, take care and merry Christmas" "I just wanted to say THANK YOU for putting up your website!!! I came across it today and I think it's awesome! As Spirit would have it, I came across it JUST when I needed to! I have been through A LOT in my life and it's like you said in your site, progress.. that's what it's all about! My name is _____ and I believe in gratefulness, sharing and letting someone know that they affected your life. Thank you for affecting mine! I bookmarked your site and I KNOW I'll be back there later tonight when I have some more free time to read. Your site is so well written and while reading it, the words just kept making sense to me. I recently had a life changing event take place in my life and ever since, my growth spurts have been tremendous, and reading your site today, has given me even more! Again, I thank you for taking the time to help others with your wisdom. " "upon stumbling to your site within the first few sentances i couldnt quite believe how your very words were telling my whole life story ... You spin your information in such a way that is very admirable,understandable and easy to relate to ... Thanks for helping me to understand my whole situation in life and thank you for putting that website up ... Believe me pal what your writing is helping wounded people just like myself ... I'm ___ 23 from the UK by the way... You really know how to get to the roots of the problems we face in a way - Keep up the good work :)" From the Netherlands: "With reading your material I see how it all fits togeteher, and the more I read, the more clearer it gets. I appreciate that you wanted to share your experience with others, like me. I agree with you that when someone has not done this work him/herself, he/she does not understand the complexity, the phasing/timing and is not the right person to be the therapist. Indeed this profeesor treated me like dirt, placing himself in the one up position and at the start of the session made clear I was out of balance, troublesome for myself and relations. Indeed I run from this man who is a symbol for many more therapists that I have met. I continue working the healing process. I know it's not a quick fix and I know there have been people before me who have been able to do their work. Indeed as you say as a starting (incest) survivor I need to have some support and acknowledgement. That's in my system until I can fully support on my own feelings. It is scary to look into the dark, but I will. And I know that's the only road to the Light. With appreciation and kind regards," "Robert, I didn't though that there is someone who felt EXACTLY the way I felt. And I was born an lived in Egypt for all my life (43 years) It is amazing how people can be alike. . . . And all these deep thinking come from a man! I was sure that only women who were that concerned with there inside feelings, and man just don't have the time for it. On top of all, you could find the relation with Christ and God, I still didn't get to that part yet, but until now , I really thank you. Cairo-Egypt" "I am far away from S Diego, I live in Buenos Aires, Argentina, but every word you write becomes a part of my healing process." "I am writing to you from India. I a live in New York and came here for the second level of a course I took earlier this year at the Oneness University. I brought you book along on this journey to read over the course of my stay and managed to read it all on my first day. It was so on point with how I am feeling and much of what I want to work on during my visit. Thank you for your book, it has helped immensely in my journey to oneness and self love." "JUST WANT TO SHARE WITH YOU THE REALLY CLEAR AND EFFECTIVE WEB PAGE THAT LED ME TO YOU. MY SPIRIT GUIDES LED ME TO A PRINT OUT I MADE ON AUGUST 17, 2003 OF A PAGE FROM “SANTA BARBARA HEALERPAGES BY REGION NETWORK.” ON THAT PAGE YOUR “PHILOSOPHY AND COMMENTS” STATEMENT HELPED ME TO SEE MYSELF AS SOMEONE LIVING OUT WHAT YOU DESCRIBE AS “OUTER OR EXTERNAL DEPENDENCE” AND THE WORK YOU DO TO HELP “INTEGRATE SPIRITUAL TRUTH AND INTELLECTUAL KNOWLEDGE OF HEALTHY BEHAVIOR INTO THEIR EMOTIONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH LIFE." "LISTENING TO YOUR TAPES HAVE HELPED MY RECOVERY PROCESS SO MUCH, THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU!"   I am now posting testimonials about once every 4 to 6 months. (July 4, 2008) "I cannot thank you enough for your website. i came across is recently when i was in a crisis and am working through ALL of your articles. You saved my life!" "Your site is fantastic. The abundant amount of information that you have provided is exceedingly beneficial to the recovery community. It is so incredible that you have so much information to share with others." "I've been having a rough couple of months lately, and so I was searching the web for some answers and stumbled across your website. The articles have been so helpful and have really opened up a lot of barriers within myself and have answered/created a lot more questions. It has definitely helped me with my personal growth. Thank you so much for your work, it will most certainly help others and it is really a wonderful gift you are giving to put so many articles on the internet for others to find and gain knowledge from." "I have read some of your passages on your websiteÖI am a 41 yr old male that has been divorced for 7 years and has had poor success with finding that next relationship. I recently had a relationship end that brought to surface some incredible grief that was so incredibly depicted in your long excerpt from the Joy2MeU Journal in which you were talking about different levels of letting go." "Just so you know, I found your site on google.com, and the information there helped me immensely yesterday and gave me hope when I needed it." "My girlfriend went off on me today and I googled how to get over an obsession because I wanted to break up with her but I am very in love wither her. I get to your article and I really have to say it moved me. I felt like the article was written about me. Broken house the CONSTANT worrying... everything. I have a fear that if I break up with this girl my world will end. I really think you helped me not get over her but really help myself " "I have enjoyed exploring your web pages." "Thank you for your website...you offer some ideas and insights with issues I've been struggling with. I saw it before (perhaps a year ago) and read it a few times. I found it again this last week and have been reading through it. It's been very helpful...thank you." "I am 30 years of age and have been struggling to cope with my inner children - i didn't understand this until i came across your website. As soon as i started reading about all my inner children.... the words sreamed out at me "This is your life. Now i know what's going on!" "A few days before i found your website i had a very bizarre experience where i woke up and jumped into a 3 hour conversation with my inner child. No longer screaming and able to talk to me. I had recently taken up Emotional Freedom Technique and this experince came about because i had tapped into something extremely overwhelming... I have now discovered how much healing i still have to do and have found your website a fantastic help - you spend so long living with something you sometimes forget what it is or how to word it. I needed to find the words - thank you!!" "I have found a lot of healing in just reading the articles. I have never heard anyone else say that they woke up and just wanted to die too. It makes sense now. I don't feel suicidal but see how that has been an unconcious driving force behind a lot of my behaviors." "Your site is amazing and I am grateful that it is out there for all to see. It is also very true. I have enjoyed reading it and still have more to explore within your site." "In November, I went online and did a search for ìinner child healingî and your sight came up. I had no idea how much in return I would get for that search. Your writings resonated with me so deeply and powerfully, and I have to tell you that many times a week I say a prayer out of gratitude for what you have shared." "I have found your website an immense treasure of wisdom and healing for me. Thank you so much." "thank you so much for sending me the book. my friend had it and i read it and it was so powerful i decided to buy one. i have been in recovery since l990 and am half american and half british. you spoke from the soul and the heart, everything is about love. i was diagnosed aids in 1993 with three hospitilazations and 50 tcells, i am now 62 this year and became a grandmother yesterday, i now have 430 tcells and havent been ill since 1995 with a combo of 12 step recovery modern medicine and powerful alternatives practically vegan now. all my hiv friends have cancer etc because they chose to leave 12 step and are back on the poisons of modern day. i have cherokee blood in my veins and wondered if you had native blood. i am in tune with the great spirit and the earth now and have a good life. thankyou so much for your beautiful words. they were powerfull words from a man on a good journey, in love and fellowship" "I have been reading and learning so much from your website. YOU understand me. What a gift that is! Thank you so much for the website." "I want to thank you for all the work you've done on co-dependency. I have your audio book, Dance of the Wounded soul, and I found it very enlightening." "Even the small amounts I have touched on he website have opened my eyes, my mind and my heart. My life has already begun to change with the first tears that began to roll down my cheeks. When you feel so empty and alone for so long and then realize you are far from alone and there is genuine hope, it is life changing. Thank you again." "I wanted to say that I love your site and you've really helped me in times when I've needed it most." "Thank you for the priceless gift that is your book: The Dance of Wounded Souls. I found your site while googling "how to stop obsessing." And as it always is, I found exactly what I needed exactly when I needed it. As a gift to myself for my thirtieth birthday in March I made the conscious decision to end my near half decade opiate addiction and allow myself to feel the emotional pain and face my Reality, for a greater purpose. At 30, I am just beginning to feel and find who I really am- it's so painful and wonderful and scary and everything all at once! Your book and website- your understanding and explanation of codepedency, is helping me tremendously with my process. In addition, you have reinforced my belief that some men can and do discuss feelings and emotions honestly and openly... and even want to! I also want to thank you for re-assuring me I'm not crazy! Your Truth and my Truth are so in-line with one another I felt an instant cosmic connection :-)" "thank you for such a great and extensive web site." "i absolutely *loved* how you described the evolution of the term 'co-dependency' on your wounded souls tape -- i see it exactly the way you described it!!! i have never been in a relationship with a chemically dependent person, and yet i found that many of the things being discussed at co-dependents anonymous meetings were *my* issues! i found CoDA in the late 80s, and went to meetings (at *least*, and usually more often than) once a week, until i had my ten year chip! it was a *wonderful* experience, and the beginning of my spiritual journey. i also went through a month long treatment program at the 'bradshaw center' in los angeles in 1990 and did a *lot* of family of origin work, and healing of my inner child(ren). although i'm not in therapy anymore, i attend a unity church and am addressing the *spiritual* aspects of my healing now!" "Thank you for posting such valuable information. Your work is appreciated!!" "Thanks for the great website. I wanted to thank you for all the work you put into your website. I am a recovering abuse survivor, and I'm trying to set boundaries with a very codependent, emotionally manipulative friend. The information on your site is helping me stick to my boundaries without getting drawn into her drama. Thanks for the great work!" "i absolutely adore your writing." "It is with great honor that I write to you to let you know that I was guided to your website and since that day but only a few weeks ago...I have the knowledge to understand that you have a great handle on the TRUTH of this realm." "Your book Codependence: The dance of wounded souls and cd set have really resonated deeply with my own healing journey and experiences. Thank you for such a giving and resourceful website." "My name is _____ and I am currently training to be a psychotherapist. I live in Ireland and am studying in Dublin. I just wanted to email you to thank you ever so much for all your postings on the Joy2MeU site. I have read your words many many times and still revert to them on days when I am feeling particularly vulnerable. I have taken so much strength and encouragement from your words. Everyones inner journey is different and yet I relate to so much of what you have written, it makes me feel less alone as I continue on my journey towards healing." "I am looking forward to reading your book, as your writings on your website are great (and helpful)." "This letter has been stimulated by my discovering and reading your web site. As I went through it, I found much that I appreciated and heartily agreed with . . . . I came to CoDa almost seven years ago, after a search of many decades. It felt like home to me and has continued to do so. For me too, CoDa is a path of spiritual growth more advanced and more consistently effective than any other I know about. Many of your comments in your web site are reaffirmationís of understandings and experiences that have come to me also through the program. And your book "The Dance of Wounded Souls" is being read by a number of members of my regular group and they speak highly of it as supporting their recovery process. I like that you see the issue of codependence as a crucial insight clarifying larger sociological and political processes. This capacity of codependency theory to cast light on other aspects of life demonstrates its value and usefulness. . . . I am glad to have discovered your site and hope it gets the attention it deserves." "Your work has been of great benefit to my growth, thank you." "I have been reading many different books on codependence, recovery, and inner child healing. I came across your website a couple of weeks ago. It has been very helpful! Some of the most informative and understandable information I have read so far. . . Thanks for giving so much free info on your website. It shows you care about helping people and I personally am very thankful." "Thx for your insights on your web site ­ I keep coming back to it time and time again as I ìGoogleî the latest phase of my life I am trying to come to grips with." "Yes I am enjoying your website and know I found it by Divine direction. :) Doing some homework from my last therapy session I was led to it and it has answered a lot of questions for me. My therapist asked me to ask myself this week what my fear of intimacy was due to my pattern of wanting to run away a lot and also picking men who are unavailable. Truth is....and don't laugh too hard.....this was after I told her I had filled out some forms for a placement service for the religious life. She said _____ A convent would be the ultimate form of running away and you wouldn't make a good nun! LOL Truth is I wasn't really sure what intimacy was because I have been running from it for years. When I finally just let it come up the word and the feeling I got was "death". I thought death? Why would one feel that way about intimacy? How odd. Then I realized I didn't even know what intimacy was. So I googled why do people run away from intimacy and up comes your site. It has been so wonderful and enlighting! I have been reading it off an on all weekend. After reading I realized I feared both abandonment and engulfment. I love my therapist and she has really really helped me but I feel at some point I will be calling you for phone counseling. Yes, please put me on your newsletter list. I will look into the Cruise but am hoping that you will put on an intensive in the midwest some time. Thanks again Robert for your generous heart! Your website must help a lot of people." "I look forward to recieving the your book - I stumbled across your website at a very difficult time in my life and as I began to read the various entries it felt as if a veil was lifted and for the first time in my life I began to understand how I came to be in the place I have found myself, and perhaps how I can get to where I want to be. Thank you for your generosity in sharing so much wisdom with others via your site." "I read about grief of deprivation,that you wrote,today,and yesterday I had it.You said,the universe send us the mesegges,and thats thruth.For me is hard to believe,that you write exactly about the deepest mental proceses,and thoughts,and feelings,that I have.fear of intimacy is realy a serious isssue,something The Universe tells me I shoud work on.Becouse,I suffered of sexual deprivation,and then if even a Beautifull woman tries something,I reject her....later I cannot understand why did I reject her,and stay alone sexualy deprived.See,how strong are emotinal wounds.Anyway again,I am thankfull To You for imposing your knowledge on the internet,for free.." "I am really looking forward to receiving the book. From looking at your website, I feel your approach and understanding resonate very well with me. I have only recently come to a greater understanding of my patterns and your thoughts have helped me to put that into words and to find in that a sense of hope.Thank you," "Wow! Robert, your message and the insight it contains needs to be made known to the world! You are truly an amazing gift." "I am very new in my walk to overcome my co-dependency issues. Your website has given me the courage to move forward with hope that in time I can have a happy and emotionally healthy life." "I would just like to say that I thoroughly enjoy reading your site and find it very rewarding. It has really helped me moved forward with problems I have had from an abusive childhood and I hope to book some telephone counselling sessions with you in the future, which I hope will move me on even further. By the way, I found this on youtube the other day and thought you might be interested to hear it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ICLp0gmkrYM Thank you for being so generous." "I am looking to heal myself and I am progressing well but I realize the more you learn the more you have to learn -- it gets painful and it gets dark. I have been visiting your website and reading your articles regularly and I find that so much of what you write resonates with me. Thank you for your insight and your work. I hope that one day I can help others as you have done and continue to do." "your Web site has been a great comfort to me." "Thank you for the newsletter.. i find them very helpful..this vibrantly beautiful spiritual being is greatful" "This is wonderful stuff...found it by mistake. Are you a psychologist?if not you should be. my brother is a serious alcoholic..hes in hospital now with dts.....and when he is happy..he says"it is not allowed"but when asked he doesnt know or wont say and he gets vioces saying he is bad etc. I will show him your writings when he gets out of hospital,as i feel that a lot of it might just ring a bell as he is a very spiritual person as well as liking"spirits" of course! He is a buddhist by the way. so thankyou very much for sharing this(if you get this)" "I am a Unity Minister. . . . I am not sure how I found you...I do know it was surfing and I think it was when I was looking for stuff on codependency. . . . . I love your site. You have really "given" us a gift on your site Robert. You give alot and I really appreciate it. I find your writing and thoughts very profound, clear and thought-provoking. I resonate with your writing." "My spiritual partner stumbled upon your site yesterday searching for information on Inner Child Work. I have been doing a lot of personal healing work and growth over the last 15-20 years. Your site and the articles are wonderful. Connecting it all with our spirituality, karmic healing and balancing, Christ-consciousness and more is AWESOME!!!! Wit wll take a while to get through that which resonates (which is a lot of it). Thank you and may you be continuously blessed for the wonderful work you do!!!" "It's only really been in the past three days since i've been devouring your articles that i feel the full healing and the acceptance coming in. I don't feel guilt and i know that the guilt was never mind to feel. The people i have hurt with my actions will either forgive or will hold on to that anger from their own conditionings. I just wanted to say thank you for the insight into all this and that I believe i have finally realized that if we don't love ourselves, we cna't really love others. and if we can't make ourselves happy, no one else can either. " "I received your book and was so appreciative that you took the time to write a note of encouragement. Thank you for that. You should also know that your book is great. I thank you for taking the time to write it." "Thank you Robert. I found your website full of great info. As I am processing a long marriage of 24 years, that is now ending in divorce, your information on your CD and book are relevant to my healing and moving forward without a partner until I am strong enough to stand on my own. Thank you so much for compiling this information for Wounded Souls to find a healing way." "I just read the above article on your web page. (Obsessive thinking Part 2) The entire article describes what I am living right now. Thank you for the suggestions within the article." "Your articles have given me such insight and have been so helpful in opening my eyes to see myself differently and give me the "permission" to like myself and appreciate the beautiful gifts God gave me. I never knew I was of any value. Thank you so much for your perspective and thank God your work fell into my life just when I needed it the most." "I bought your book a couple of years ago. Reading it has been a catalyst for my personal and spiritual growth and getting in to a choice based program. I am beating Co-Dependency and for the first time in 46 years I love myself. I look to myself for satisfaction and fulfillment and not another human being or thing. The Journey has been worth it even while it was hard. Thank You for sharing your experiences!" "I've been enjoying your metaphysical approach to relationships via your website. I'm looking forward to receiving the CD's and listening to them in my car on my way to work." "Thanks for the book and CDs. I've read a lot of your web site pages on-line, but the book and audio CD reading of it, really hit home. I'd first found your site, about a year ago, but wasn't ready at that time to really get into the deeper work I've embarked on now. I'm sure your materials will be a great help to me." "I am a 21-year who just graduated form undergrad and am in my first semester of Grad school. All of your words ring very true in my heart and it's like all these bells and whistles going off in my head. Often it is those of us who are most sensitive, kind, and compassionate in our hearts that are hurt most by parents and people who stumble blindly around with their own wounded selves and since we feel that we must somehow heal them we become very wounded ourselves." "I love what I've read on your website. " "I would have loved to attend your workshops because your words so resonate with the forgotten knowledge in my soul. I have yet to read everything (the Universe has led me to you but 3 days ago), but already you have brought me much clarity and comfort and hope. I live all the way here in the Philippines, so making it to the workshops is pretty tricky. (-% Still, who knows, we do travel there every now and then. Next trip I'll be sure that it coincides with some of the sessions. Thank you so very much for sharing your wisdom with us. I will have you know, that you just spared me my sanity." From India: "I appreciate the commendable work you have done!!" "i have found your book - dance of wounded souls beyond description. i am in a twelve step program. my mother died a few years ago and i need the stuff in your book to be true. it has such a ring of truth to it unlike anything else i ever read. i have tried many scams before but i don't find anything about your words scammy. and i am a very skeptical questioning person." "Your website is amazing and I have recommended it to my fellow counselors. at the very least, I will order your book, to help me, and hopefully eventually my clients. . . At any rate, thank you for your site and your honesty and I look forward to reading your book" "The information you're giving out is amazing!" "l stumbled across your website about four years ago when l started taking a dance around pandora's box. Well lets say l had a peak and it scared me, the thing is as you know once it's open... it's open. Well four years later lm starting to delve deeper, really peeling those onion layers! Tonight, l had some emotional clearing come up and tried to squash it down until l could no longer and the tears came rolling down. When it was over l got onto the net and guess what? After, four years l stumbled across your website again! l wanted to thank you for the literature you have provided on your site it is very helpful and the style of your writing is reassuring. l even managed a giggle when l read "I would end up crying in a rubber room for the rest of my life. That if I ever really owned the rage, I would just go up and down the street shooting people". May you be the recipient of many blessings " "Just wanted to thank you for all the awesome material you have made available free online!!! I am looking forward to getting your books.. my Spiritual Partner and I are both excited about finding this material" "Hello. I have to say that when I read your article on "Fathers", particularly the part about the additional way that fathers wound their daughters, I felt completely validated. For years it was a joke in my family that "Daddy stopped hugging me when I got boobs." But it was true! I had been a daddy's girl until I hit puberty and then I couldn't do anything right...not that I could before, but I really was dealt his wrath after I developed physically. . . . . . Thank you for putting in print the feeling that has dominated my life for the last 30 years! It is liberating to know that I wasn't alone or ridiculous for feeling this way. Perhaps now I can begin to heal." "Just recently, I read some of your writings on co and counter dependency and was amazed to see how well the descriptions that you provided were so right on the money, as a description of our parents, while growing up, and that made no sense to me as a child, as well as all the stress and frustration produced for all of us." "I am enrolled in a Clinical Pastoral Education Program at the Veteranís Hospital in ____. A large portion of our program is Psychotherapy training and WOW am I glad I stumbled onto your web site. I ordered your book ìThe Dance of Wounded Soulsî and I am very excited to learn more. I, being co-dependent myself, think that this book and some of the other points brought up on your website help drag out some really deep issues into the light. Thank you and please keep up all the great writing!!" "Your website is totally amazing. I stumbled upon it recently while looking for articles related to obsessive thinking - in order to heal my own. What I found was information on that topic and so much more. Thank you for publishing your work like this, making it so easily accessible and understandable. I'm on to reading about romantic relationships, with hopes that I will also find answers and healing within your articles. Thank you for your colossal efforts in putting this website together. Please know that they are helping me, and I'm sure many others, tremendously." "Thank you for your writings. They helped to convince me of my issues that I have been facing in life. I suspected the cause but I needed to confirm the insight. Your writings have assisted in that regard." "I just wanted to express my gratitude for supplying such eye-opening information on your website. It is so greatly appreciated! . . . The reason I am sending this lengthy, way too much information e-mail, is to thank you, because I stumbled across your website just today when doing a Google search for "personal boundaries," because I had absolutely no clue what that meant, and I'm waiting for self-help books arrive and counseling to start. Thank you for making this information available to the public! I have spent the entire day reading your website with your valuable information -- and I now have a place to start with myself immediately, instead of having to wait." "I HATE TO KEEP COMPLIMENTING YOU BUT I CAN'T GET ENOUGH OF YOUR WRITING. THANK YOU SO MUCH."   Testimonials for  the Web Sites of Robert Burney This page contains some of the beautiful and heart warming testimonials that I have received for my web sites. As you can tell by the dates that they came in, there are gaps in the time periods. That isn't because I didn't receive testimonials during those times - it is just because I haven't harvested them from the many e-mails I get. In the beginning of 1999, I picked out a few that had come in to use on my home page. Then was moved to collect more when a significant number were received in a short period of time. It is only in the last 4 months that I have collected them regularly - and then, these are not all of them even from those time periods. I could go back in my e-mail files and collect more, but I really don't see any point - and sure don't have the time. I had not really anticipated having a page just for testimonials until just recently. With the complete redesign I have just completed of my Joy2MeU site, having a testimonial page fit in with the overall concept of the design - so voila, here is this page. As I was getting ready to put this page together, on the evening of January 30th 2000, I got an e-mail that included a link to someone's else site with a testimonial to my site. Since I do not believe there are any accidents or coincidences, it seemed only appropriate that I include that link here. The site is Dr. Irene's and it is a really wonderful site. Her focus is on abusive relationships and she is really wonderful in her approach to the dynamics of both the abuser and the victim. Here is the link to the testimonial on her site that includes a testimonial to my site. Check it out http://www.drirene.com/words_of_appreciation.htm along with the rest of her site. ~ Robert   (March 22, 2006) "Just to thank you for mailing your book, which arrived here last Thursday, and for enabling me to find an important piece of the jigsaw. Your writing has arrived in my life at just the right time, and I need you to know that your courage and compassion are helping me with a long-overdue healing process." "On a personal note, I want to share with you that I am a clinical psychologist. Your writings have deeply resonated with me and have greatly facilitated my personal work... recently *enlivened* by a painful relationship break-up. In turn, I hope my ongoing healing will conribute to my professional endeavours as a therapist. Thank you sincerely for sharing your insights and your personal experience." "My name is ______ and I am 65 years. Your books and articles have been an answer to my prayers." "Simply, I want to thank you with every fiber of my being for having the courage to have put together this website. You are making a difference in my life. I am on a journey to recover from my past. I was sexually abused by my brother when I was 11 years old (I am now 45). My wounds are not so much from the abuse but from the lack of support of my parents. All my life it has seemed that they have supportive my schizophrenic older brother (abuser) and left me by the way side. Anyway, your site is giving me hope that my life can be joyous. Thank you again for this tremendous gift. With Respect and Gratitude" "Thank you very much for writing your book and making your wonderful website. I'm not even sure how to express how much it means to me. But thank you so much. . . Again, thank you so much for your website. It contains so much truth I've read the same pages many times and I'm still learning from it." "i apreciate your website very much." "I really feel compelled to write to you and have been meaning to for what seems like a long, long time. But everything has unfolded so quickly for me that it is only now that I can truly sit back, want to share my experience, feel proud of where I've got and really really want to tell you how much you have helped me in reaching this point. One evening I decided to look up more about therapy and how it could really help and it was as if I was being pulled to your site and my mission was to read everything that was on it. It was the first time ever that I had literally dedicated time to helping me. Before this point everyone else in my life had always been my absolute priority. I spent hours and hours reading, and re-reading. I returned the following day and spent the entire evening reading. As I read I started to cry, and it became so intense that I could not stop crying, yet I wasn't afraid, and it didn't feel like depression tears, more like tears that were unraveling a truth that would help me so much. From that moment on I thought such loving thoughts towards you. I wondered if I'd ever meet you and how proud I was of you. It felt like someone had helped me so much, yet I didn't know who they were. Funny eh that you go through life thinking that the people close to you are the ones that help you, and then you discover true love from a complete stranger. So from the deepest part of my heart I want to thank you." "Thanks for offering that website to the world, as of itself, I feel it began to facilitate healing for me.I've pretty much read all of it and resonated with it deeply." "thanks for your courage and your website. Your insight is profoundly helping me. Do you still do counseling? If yes, I would appreciate any information you could give me about your sessions. I am looking forward to receiving my book and audio tapes. Thank you again. You are an inspiration." "I stumbled on your site after being in a short term relationship that went from hottttttttt to luck warm and cold so fast. I needed some answers and found it here. Thank you. I have been sharing your site with everyone." "I would like to express my sincere thanks and appreciation for your book: Codependency, the dance of wounded souls. I have been very angry all my life, but did not know what I was angry about. I found myself in an abusive relationship and I began to research emotional abuse and came across your website, I order your book and tape. After reading the book and listening to the tape, I began loving myself and was able to gain strength and got out of the abusive relationship and I am now truly living a joyous life. For the first time in 20 years, I went to Florida for a vacation. I am truly delivered and I would like to enroll in a certificate program to provide this type of counseling to others. I Thank God for you." "I am very happy to have found your website. You have put together some very interesting and informative information." "Bravo to you sir, by accident I came across your website in regards to Jesus and Mary Magdalene. Yours is like a voice that cries out in the wilderness on the subject matter ringing true yet threatening a belief system that is so rooted in the world. People are defined by their belief systems and to be challenged on them causes them to react ferociously. Your voice not only challenges the individual but a power structure firmly entrenched into the mind the masses and the global definition of religion. Dialogically clever were those who set into motion the Christianity we know and were raised on. Dogma to restrict us, guilt to bind us. Instead of allowing the true nature of Jesus Christ to flow from him which is love and one who truly loves acts with restraint in all areas as not to harm the object of their love. No need for dogma and guilt the love will guide. I would be most disappointed in the Jesus I have come to know if he did not have a relationship with Mary Magdalene. In order to be our advocate to the Father he needed to know and feel and experience all areas of humanity and the highest of all of these is the ability to give love, touch love and be given it back starting on a one to one bases which transcends the rest of humanity and graces them with the overflow." "Thanks a lot. And the articles on your web site are excellent, exactly what I have been looking for." "I've been reading articles on your website. From what I've read so far the part that resonates most with me is where you say that you used to think/feel that at the very core of you was the desire to die, to not exist.. Most of the time this is how I feel. I feel as though your website has thrown me a lifeline (and this is after years of therapy)." "I am lookng forward to taking responsibility for the rest of my life with my new found hope and awarness. I was impressed by your words / views on the matter at your website and am looking forward to reading your book / listening to the tapes." "I am very much enjoying your book, and I wanted to thank you. I am constantly visiting your website and re reading everything on there as well. Thank you so much." "I wanted to tell you that I received your book yesteday and have begun reading it. Thank you for your message and autograph. As a newly graduated Marriage and Family Therapist, I find your message very accurate for all people, not just those who come from disfunctional families. In fact, I have yet to meet anyone who does not come from a disfunctional family. I am sure I will use and share the words you have written with my clients. For myself, it is very soothing and enlightening to discover that the difficulties I have had negotiating life are common and curable and it is especially delightful to continue realizing that the power to bring happiness to my life comes from within and not from trying to please and take care of other people. Thank you for spreading the message of your truth in order to add positivity to the world. As a Third Culture Kid, I know that we are all part of the same body and that only by working together can we heal this difficult and contentious world." "I'm a 39 year old man and came across you article today and I want you to know that I have lived your life as you have mine. I am not going to try and show this woman how great we could be together. I could wax on but I shall spare you the drama. Let me just say that I must move on a be greatful that this has all come to surface after 7 weeks and not 7 years. I will read more of your work. You have help a grown man today that was looking for help." "I just recently separated from my wife after just 14 months of marriage. This has been a difficult period, not the worst but in the top three. I have found your web site incredibly useful in dealing with this situation. It has really taught me what is a healthy/healthier approach to this and all life events." "I've been in aa recovery here for many years, but I have not yet found someone that I connect with the way that I do with your writing since my sponsor died a few years ago. He was an amazing spirit and finding your site has given me hope that he wasn't unique. I resonate with everything that you speak about and have reached very similar conclusions through my own experience. Sadly, however, I don't find many in the aa fellowship who share it. It's good to know there is another out there who shares my insights, as well as those of my old sponsor. I know he would have liked you a lot! I'm dipping into your site on a daily basis and it feels like having a good meeting. I hope that I will be able to give some of it back to my homegroup, over time, if they are willing to be open-minded! Unfortunately, no CODA here, but I don't think that matters as much as the real insight that co-dependency is totally relevent to alcoholics. I'm quite sure that we are busy, as a species, with that next step that Bill W called "The Next Frontier"." "I have just discovered your web site couple of weeks ago. I want to thank you first of all for sharing your wisdom and knowledge. . . . But only through finding your site have I gotten any practical blueprint on what to do." " I LOVED YOUR BOOK!! Thank you for confirming what Ive believed for so long ... just need it to to be reenforeced.. And Im at work so I have to make it quick, but thank you for trying to make people understand what Jesus was REALLY all about LOVE (yourself and all others) AND PEACE AND JOY AND FAITH AND FORGIVENESS -esp yourself and your 'inner child'...!! Anyway -thank you may god (dess) bless you :)" "Its ______, guess you all ready know that, from Australia, I am still listening to your tapes . . . . . I am healing and finding more about me and my journey as I trudge the road to happy destiny, there is a lot of pain involved, I am glad they didn't tell me I would have to go through all this when I first got sober, and my GOD has used seemingly brutal methods to get me to look at me, I am learning to follow the carrots...I don't want the stick anymore, I am now studying Social welfare, and it is an amazing journey. I hope your good Mate, keep learning so I can to!" "I would like to thank you too for your web site. You cannot believe how much I have gained from it. I've been searching for so many answers,and came across your site at an amazing point in my life. May u continue to do the wonderful work that you are doing!" "I had emailed you a few years ago after reading your book and listening to your tapes. It was the only thing that got me through a really rough time in my life." "I found your website incredibly helpful. Thank you for sharing your insight, compassion and strength. Your writing came to my attention at just the right moment!" "I am in a 12 step recovery program myself and am currently facing my own relationship issues. It is amazing to have reached yet another new level of consciousness and to be acting in love and health although this is often the hardest choice to make. I am also training as a counsellor and have read your pages about counsellors and agree very much with the comments about therapists and counsellors only being able to help in so far as they have addressed their own 'stuff'. Thanks and best wishes." "Both my partner and myself are reading your website at the moment. In fact my partner was skeptical aoubt inner child work before reading your pages, now he is finding your stuff really helpful." "Big "HI!" to u from India!!! Im a 16 yr old girl from Mumbai and I just don't know how to begin thanking you...thanking you for everything!! I have gone through so much that you have yourself gone through. And I am still doing all that you used to do as a kid....trying to hurt them in any possible way even by scoring low....BY WRITING ABOUT THIS AND MAKING ALL OF IT AVAILABLE ON NET I KNOW YOU HAVE HELPED INNUMERABLE PEOPLE LIKE MYSELF AND FOR THAT I THANK YOU OVER AND OVER. I earnestly believe that it was one of my Angels that led me to discover your site a few months ago. I'm just recovering from a two year long term of depression where I would begin to cry anyplace, anytime and I didn't know why I did it except that it felt like a load off my heart. You see as you have explained on some of your pages, I grew up in a dysfunctional family and I still have so many feelings pent up inside of me.......I FEEL LIKE I AM ADDICTED TO PAIN AND CAN'T WEEN MYSELF OFF OF IT. I have quite a few friends but none that I can relate to or talk about this to. I feel like I am A BIG LIAR for not letting others know who I actually am, what I actually am like as a person. I'M AFRAID. And any guy who shows interest in me- I treat him like dirt b'coz he likes me. I Don't know why. Just telling all this to another living being feels great and i hope you spend a precious little of your time reading this. I just hope to know how I can forgive my parents and myself because it seems impossible right now. I have so completely spoiled my grades that now even if I try i am not able to put them rite- i feel lost and stupid. I don't wanna screw up my life and was hoping for a few words of healing that you could give me/ guide me to? Sincerely grateful for your time and help, [ once again] THANK YOU!!!" "Glad to have heard from you. I'm grateful for your advice and am eager to start applying that to my life. And please do add me to your list. Also, I don't think I'm ever gonna stop visiting your site. Your work is amazing." "Hi Robert, I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for your reply to an email of mine late last year regarding counselling in Sydney Austraila. You were very helpful and I really appreicate it. I have finally had the courage to start counselling here and know there is hope:) Thanks and best wishes" "Thank you Mr.. Burney!!!!! I am seeing a counselor now and she is helping me tremendously. She has heard of your books too! I am beginning to not be so hard on myself and blaming myself for everything wrong in my life." "I enjoy your website and have found a wealth of valuable information to assist me on my journey in recovery. Thank you for all you do for us." "Thanks for responding personally to me...my husband and I have been search for answers to alot of his feelsings and your internet site...making reference to your book was delivered to us via God. My husband finally felt like someone was writing from his heart about his feelings...which have been closed for many years. your words are a comfort in a world full of mystery." "I found your website out of pure luck and feel as if I have answers to questions I have been asking myself my whole life. . . But I found your website and stayed hooked to it for an hour and a half. In these past 3 years I have seen a counselor because I knew there was something wrong with me. They put me on medication (which would have been better given to my wacko parent) and I took it for a while, but that wasnít the fix, I wasnít depressed, anything but. I get angry so they gave me an anger management book, well, that didnít seem to fit either. It would appear that I represented many classic cases of a stay at home mom that needed a life (one therapist told me this), another thought that everything would be fine once I set some boundaries (good helped a little) and then I decided I needed time. Read a bunch of books and reached a plateau. Then I found your web site which fills in all the missing wholes. I had even gone to some alanon meetings but I was still angry that these people had so much power in my life I couldnít see the connection and didnít feel it was for me. I canít wait to read your book." "I have been sharing your book and some information with many Nar-Anon members and all have been inspired by your wisdom. The problem I have is that every time I lend it out to one of our "group members," it doesn't come back. So, from now on, they may look at it, but it will not be offered for loan. I guess it's just too good to return." "I am currently reading some of your Inner Child Healing work, as it has become apparent that I am most definitely a internalized toxic shame driven individual. I think that your stuff is brilliant and immensely valuable, and I believe that I told you before how impressed I was with your giveaway. . . . you already have my immense gratitude for your giveaway. Your work has helped me, and continues to help me tremendously, and I have recommended your site to many of the other men and women that I work with." "I look forward to reading & listening to your book & tapes. I have a sponsor & will use your ideas and insights to help me with my prayer & meditation to keep me in the now. (My sobriety date is 10-09-05) Can I have your permission to share with other AA members for group discussions similar to the Joe & Charlie tapes we listen to at Big Book meetings I attend? For now I need to concentrate on my own healing but what works for me can work with another human being. Thanks again for your dedication, I'm grateful for being broke down enough to have a Spiritual awakening & to have discovered the 12 steps which I am slowly trying to understand, work & follow, without it I'd die an alcoholic death." "Hi Robert, I have to tell you that your writings and your website are a magnificent godsend. I have been on a sacred healing journey for just over a year. And I have autonomously discovered everything that you have written, even so far as the quantum physics. (I have a little snowflake frame that contains the saying..."Do without Doing". So, you can imagine my intrique at seeing all the things that I have learned, on my own...hunting, pecking and divining...wrangled into your website in one big package. You must really help many people with your work. I have basically used Adlerian group coursework, Native American Medicine Wheel and other sacred journeys, ceremony and rituals, Goddess and Archetypes, crystals and stones, candle, chakra work, esoteric healing, journaling, poetry, books, oracles, divination, my own intution and psychic abilities to discern the Truth. I also use the internet as an oracle and it has been the most massive resource that I have used. Now, the last thing that I am working on is my deep grief work. I think I am finally ready to deal with the deep rage and grief from the pain of my childhood and my adulthood. I have chosen to use a therapist to help me do this work. Odd how the brutal death of a friend led me to seek counseling to help me properly grieve her death...and I find myself working on myself. She was apparently one of my angels. Anyway, I simply had to write you. I am a web designer by trade and I am also writing a book and creating a web portal for codepency and addiction issues. I would love to link to you when my site is completed. I count you among my blessings! Thank you for all your good work, Robert." "I have purchased and read and absolutely loved your first book ìDance of Wounded Soulsî about a year ago . . . . I still refer to "Dance of Wounded Souls" when I get depressed and I truly love reading your work." "A FRIEND/NEIGHBOR/??...PUT ME ON TO YOUR ARTICLES DATING BACK TO MARCH OF 99...HE PRINTED THEM OFF FOR ME...AND BAM!!....RIGHT BETWEEN THE EYES!...I FOUND MYSELF SOBBING UNCONTROLLABLY ON SEVERAL OCCASIONS!!...BOY!...DID IT EVER HIT HOME WITH ME!...THIS WAS ME/IS ME IN A NUTSHELL!...THIS IS HOW I HAVE BEEN LIVING MY LIFE....MY RELATIONSHIPS...MY FEELINGS/HURT...ANGER!!...ME,ME,ME!! CONSTANTLY FEELING LIKE I HAD TO MEASURE UP!...WIN LOVE,ACCEPTANCE AND APPROVAL!!...JUMP THROUGH HOOPS!!...IN THE END PUTTING MY HAPPINESS/FEELINGS ASIDE...AS A RESULT LOSING ME!! THERE ARE SO MANY INSTANCES/SITUATIONS THAT YOUR ARTICLES HELPED ME SEE WHAT I WAS DOING"   (June 17, 2006) "I was reading your article this a.m. (I have all the articles on codependence and healing the inner child from your website printed out and sitting on my table and every a.m. I read one while eating breakfast) on interrupting the negative messages that the inner child sends with positive messages, and I was really tickled by your progress in replacing your "I want to die" message with the "I want to live message." as well as the more theatrical "I feel pretty. . ." message that emerged one a.m. (Union Within - healing the inner child - 5 years later) I just wanted to share with you how much progress I have made in healing my inner child in the last year and that I believe your messages have been instrumental in helping me to become whole -- at least more whole than I have ever been in my life, and that is nearly 57 years. One of the signs has been my lack of fear in signing up for your day-long seminar on Apr. 23. When I received the announcement, I immediately wanted to attend. Then when I saw it was being held in San Francisco (a place I have never been but have always wanted to visited) I wanted to go so bad I could taste it. After only 10 min. of self-doubt, I decided to sign up for the seminar. That's been nearly four days, and I haven't had one moment of regret or fear about it. When you consider I live on the East Coast and so had to pay for airfare, hotel and rental car as well as meals, entertainment, etc., the cost factor is not insignificant. In the past I would have found a thousand reasons not to go and a million reasons to regret having signed up. But none of that this time. I know that attending your seminar and having the chance to visit S.F. are not only two things I want to do, but that doing them will be good for me and good for my mental health. So today, I also feel "pretty, and witty and wise." And one of the reasons is that I have become wise enough to follow the lead of others like yourself, rather than trying to be the "know-it-all" codependent expert that characterized so much of my former life. So I'm flying in on Fri. a.m. and spending a couple of days visiting S.F. and environs before attending the seminar, and I want to thank you for helping me take advantage of such a wonderful and serendipitous opportunity." (This person did attend the Intensive Seminar in San Francisco - and among his comments afterwards is this quote "Robert Burney's intense training seminar on Codependence was everything I expected it to be and a whole lot more." - which is shared on the Testimonials for Intensive page.) "quite honestly the benefit I've gained from your material has been so great that you deserve way beyond the price of admission to the training anyway. I am very happy paying the $200 registration price." "Just received your newsletter, I am VERY VERY HAPPY that your program was a success. I am glad you are holding more training. And yes, surely I donít think the day might be far when you take your wonderful work and wisdom to far away lands [like mine!! :-) India] and help the people there. THANK YOU FOR MAKING OUR WORLD A BETTER PLACE. I HOPE SOMEDAY I CAN HELP YOU IN THIS!!!! I am really and truly so grateful that i found you and your site. i know i told you this before too, but i really cant do justice to my appreciation for your help and work in words. Bye!!!" "I read thru much of your website and I am very inspired by it. I have been feeling that something is missing from the 12-step CoDA meetings and now I know it is true." "I really want to thank you for your wonderful article on Setting Boundaries. (Setting Personal Boundaries - protecting self) I am a lay teacher and help other women experience emotional healing and growth. I really enjoyed this article and was able to share it with someone I am working with. . . . Please know what a dynamic influence your work can have on others. I appreciate your sharing your knowledge in this way online." "I would like to first tell you that your website is awesome and that I am grateful for discovering it." "Thank you for the wonderful website. I want to say again how much I enjoyed the workshop in Ft. Erie, Ontario when you were there and the book is great. It is in my car at all times as I read when I have to wait for my Aunt or my mom or someone or something. And, I must say you look great and younger without the facial hair. Congratulations on the family you have attained." "Your work is brilliant and from what I've read on your website I am just utterly blown away by this material. It's like finally someone has put this mess of codependance into perspective so it can be healed!" "Hi Robert! I don't know if you remember me emailing you last year about wanting to recover from my addictions or not. I was really struggling. You were so kind to reply to my email and I'll never forget it! Well I finally did it! Picked up my white chip Feb. 12th! Just wanted to share that with you and thank you again for your kindness!" "Your writing is more insightful and instructive for change than Bradshaw and Melody Beattie of codependence no more. Pia Melody's pretty good but you're more broad thinking in concepts and more compassionate too. . . I have been in therapy since I was 19, I'm 48 and am just learning about boundaries and not from the help of my therapist unfortunately. She knows inner child work but not how boundaries directly relate to it. Your work has been an invaluable resource as I read it tonight." "Can't wait to get the book! Spend the whole weekend reading up on your web. Wow, I certainly like your angle on relationships. Got to your site after searching for passive-aggressive behaviour on Alta-vista. Most of what I have read so far resonates with me. And thanks a million for all the info that you do have available. Wish that most sites are like that!!!! South African greetings." "I am new to your site and your work but in a matter of 3 days I have learned and been extremely comforted by your writings. I thank you!" "I'm studying alternative medicine in Beijing, China being raised in traditional Chinese culture, growing up in Muslim society, going to Catholic schools, becoming protestant, have western education background, I've been longing to find the Truth, and I'm so glad and thankful I read your writing, I can't wait to do my own spiritual healing and let my Truth sets me free. Thank you Robert." "Thank you - you may have saved my sanity...I had forgotten that I'm worthwhile." "i have been reading tons of stuff lately on your web pages and am finding the info helpful in advancing my own healing work. . . my husband and i are both finding much helpful stuff on your site to continue to help us both process feelings. and 'buttons'. you validate a lot of things that i had discerned over the years on your pages. so much of what you say rings so true." "Thank you for your beautiful words. As I read more with each passsing day I feel as though I am moving closer to a better understanding of my True Self. You have helped me open my eyes and see true meaning in each and ever moment I experience. Thank you for your time and for sharing your amazing journey." "Thanks for getting the book and tapes out right away-and by priority mail. Just wanted to let you know that I have really enjoyed reading so many selections from your site and have been sending friends there as well. . . I think you are very talented and gifted. I would like to thank you for sharing your philosophys and experiences so that others may learn and grow. Sometimes its nice to know that we're not the only ones going through things...or having a "human experience"...growing. Thanks again!" "I'm very empowered and inspired just by reading parts of your website!" "Yes i have found your book very valuable. At first i thought that i would be able to read quite quickly but found that i had to keep putting it down and then return to it later. It was as if i was looking into a mirror, and reading things that i thought were only personal to me, you even on occasion used actual phrases that i have used myself. I'm still reading it at the moment and have talked about it so much to my friend that i have ordered her a copy to stop her from stealing mine. You could say shes worse than me! so i think it will be a great help to her, and if that wasn't enough i am just about to order another copy for someone else." "great book thanks so much" "I have discovered your website yesterday and I have been reading as many of the articles as I can fit in before and after work and in the middle of the night! I am sure I will settle down but in truth the honesty and wisdom is extremely refreshing and totally appropriate to where I am at the moment. After years of healing I have spent much of the last 6 months getting in touch with my emotions and that has lead to an extraordinary amount of crying. Your words have put this grief in context and a lot of my healing now makes more sense emotionally, intellectually and spiritually. I look forward to reading more and buying your book but I just wanted to take a brief moment to say THANKYOU for your calm, soothing and wise words." "I just want to say what a most amazing book you have written, it totally blew me away to think that someone else has the exact feelings and problems. The way you have expessed and explained what we are going through is quite extrodinary and you work is of great importance to people." "Robert, Your writing today has been a blessing, a joy and a painful acceptance of my codependancy for most of my life. I have learned that being honest with my feelings is what will keep me safe and healthy... thanks.. God bless you greatly and gives you the energy and resources you need to share this truth with many others." "I've been reading the articles on your website for the last couple of weeks, and they have really struck a chord with me. Someone recently gave me a Border's gift card that was good at amazon.com, so I decided to buy your book, and I'm really looking forward to reading it. Thank you very much, and keep up the great articles online :) Wishing you continued success" "I love what you have written generally and specifically on the inner child - it certainly matches all of what I have experienced and taught over the past 20 years." "First of all a big Hearty thanks! Your site has and is helping me on my journey to recovery from my dysfunctional family and self." "I have just been on your site and must thank you for your work on behalf of myself and all the other people who have benefitted from as a result of your valliant effort's" "I want to thank you for your extraordinary website. It is literally changing my life day by day as I begin to understand so much about myself, my life. I look forward to reading your book and have ordered the ebooks . . . . . . You are saving lives, Robert, helping me reclaim mine I feel. Again thank you so much." "I purchased your book, "Codependence: Dance of Wounded Souls" a short time ago and have been reading your articles on your web site on a nearly daily basis. I am learning to heal my inner child(ren) due to your insightfulness and efforts to share what you know to be Truth. I won't elaborate. Just want you to know that your work is truly appreciated. YOU are truly appreciated!" "I just found your site last week and wanted to say thank you for your piece of this great puzzle. Your words resonate with my sister and I, who have been recovering from Ritualistic Satanic Abuse behind the Mormon Church." "Again thanks heaps for your work Having subscribed to Dancing in the Light. I was wondering how long it will take before I receive a username and password and link and start dancing! I am v keen. In the meantime I will practice patience :) and read the 3 million other worthy words you have posted so generously for free." "Your site is fantastic. I have turn on everyone I know to it. It says what is happening. I may not like what I read, but then thatís why Iím looking at your site. To get some insight as to why my life seams so in the toilet." "I know you are a very busy man but would just like to thank you for your book and tapes which I found extremely helpful as a starting point in my recovery!" "I'd like to thank you for your book,'Dance of wounded souls' and tapes-have gained so much from them. I'm also gaining so much from your website, you would never even imagine. I was going through a time in my life when i just couldn't get any answes from anyone, and then I came across your website. It has answered so many of my questions-thank you!" "About half a year ago I had stumbled upon your site and ordered your book, The Dance of The Wounded Souls. I know I have much work and healing to do in many areas and I am very glad for the sharing you do and your dedication to help others who are looking within." "I wanted so much to take the time to tell you how much I appreciate your book . . . thanks for the help on my journey back to myself . . thank you again for your guidance and enlightenment" "I was taking a look at your piece on boundaries actually. I had been attempting to set this boundary with my new love ____, and was not able to maintain it, and usually I am pretty good at that. When I read your piece, it became clear to me why I couldn't maintain it - I was trying to manipulate her - it wasn't a boundary. I called her immediately and owned that. Thanks again man - such an incredible giveaway." "I have been reading your web-site all morning and have allowed myself some tears that are indeed part of my own healing. . . It is great that there are people like you in the world that have faced their shadow and looked it is in the eye and are willing to share your knowledge. Your web site is a credit to you and thank you for your truth and good luck on your journey." "i read your site on a regular basis.....it is a life saver to me." "Certainly my reading your book proved to be a pivot point in my story, as nothing before it, made me really recognize just how codependent I was, and the effect it had had on my life. Those realizations were like bold brilliant lashes of paint on the canvas of my life. I am living differently now, more alive, vital and becoming more centered although not in a straight line." "i'm enjoying navigating through the many pages of your work. thank you for making it available!" "Thankyou for your email thanking me for purchasing your book. Im really looking forward to reading it if not a little apprehensive aswell. Having read your website certain things that you talked about hit home with a sledgehammer and for the first time in my life ive decided to take positive action to try and sort my life out once and for all." "I love you. I love what God has placed in you to help others. Could you please schedule one of your training sessions in the Washington, DC area? I would love to attend and learn more from you what God has blessed you with." "Your site and books are so very helpful to me. I have often heard about healing the inner child." "Your book has been fantastic to read. I have only a couple of pages left. I let a family member (who reads fast) read it because she just got out of rehab for substance abuse. I am on a spiritual journey and my journey led me to your web site and ultimately to your book. I have been so inspired by your words" "Just wanted to say thank you for putting up that site, it has helped me." "I stumbled upon your web page while looking for some answers for myself. Reading your articles is like reading about my life. I am that parent you speak of; the one enabling my son to continue. I want to help him, he's even asked for help. But it seems that all I've been doing is helping him financially which is only allowing him to continue. 99% of his pay check is gone within hours every week. He's in a lot of debt and that's where I thought I was helping him...but I'm hurting him. I don't know where to stop or start! But by reading your articles I feel that my life and his is text book...and it is possible to help him. Thank you" "i found your website when i googled 'grief'. thank you for the beautiful writing on your web page. i am visiting it more often now, and sharing it with my group." "I have been on your web site and it is fantastic! There is so much useful information that I have only begun to review. I really appreciate all the work that has gone into putting together such a web site as it is so helpful to so many people! Your openness to have it available to everyone is really a wonderful selfless service." "As I have prayed for several years, and patiently waited for the answers, I have come across your web site and have received many answers to many questions. . . . I wish to thank you at this time for your commitment to follow what your spiritual journey had in store for you. With this knowledge and spiritual connection, as you say " intigration" is a wonderful gift which you have shared with many. I greatly Thank You! !" "Happy to find your website and the information contained within." "I've been reading your web pages off and on for about a week now. Thank you for sharing your journey. It takes a great deal of courage to do so." "I just wanted to drop you a quick line to confirm that I received your book in the mail yesterday. Thank you. I look forward to getting into it as soon as I finish up some of the other material that I printed off from your website; it has become part of my daily ritual to read it on my ride to and from work." "I would like to thank you for the amazing information that I have discovered about myself. In the past 8 or 9 monthes I have been going through a situation with a guy and a lot of what was wrote on the website has helped me begin closure on the issue." "I read your book I think it is excellent and sums up how I feel as a wounded soul and it has been very helpful and insightful. I am now hoping to start on healing the inner child." "I jumped around on your website. Good Stuff. You write about a lot of feelings and issues men experience" "Thanks for your honest and thoughtful web pages describing codependent, counterdependent and other associated behaviors. I'm well along in my recovery but it's always refreshing and affirming to see my own experiences captured so well in another's work. Anyway, good job, blessings to you, and keep up the good work." "I very much enjoyed the article that I just read, it was produced in 2004 and I can only identify very strongly with the internal tapes and children that run my life." "I am now reading "The Dance" and am glad to be able to read it in it's entirety. I think your work is extremely important and I equate you to a loving beacon that's able to provide knowledge, light/love to sooo many dark and scarred hearts, globally. I came to your web-site with the search word "Letting Go". You have provided me with knowledge on how to love myself and that I AM loved unconditionally by our creator who resides within my heart. I have had many self realizations since my husband died and one was that God is love. To me that's the only word we really need to know and internalize. How beautiful it was when I made this discovery. For many years I was not sure where God was.....now many pieces of the truth are fitting together, it is very exciting. My life is now being filled with meaning/purpose and love. It's great to enjoy this gift of life with a WHOLE new perspective than the sad and SEPARATE existence I was enduring. Thank you again for your light and love.......you are an amazing spiritual being." "The words I have read so far from your web site have been absolutley remarkable. I look forward to reading your book and hearing your tapes." "Hello, congratulations for your book, I love your concepts and I'm trying to implement them to my life. They have been such a treasure for myself. Thank you!" "I have discovered your website couple of years ago and have been learning so much from it. On your website, I have found many answers either for my self or for my clients. Everything on your web site is written with such a compassion and care for people and humankind. Every time I open the website I feel excited, energized and full of love and hope. GOD BLESS YOU. Everything you talk about there is resonating within my perception of the world and people. I am thankful to you and all the work you have done to spread truth, love and hope. I have fully discovered my spirituality in February this year and ever since my life has changed. Reading your website has contributed to that a lot. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU GOD BLESS YOU" "This is only the beginning for you to go global and help more people in the world that need you! Thank you so much for all your help. The timing was so critical for me." "Thank you for sharing yourself with everyone and writing a book and having a website that can help others so much. God bless you for your understanding and your gifts in helping others." "I am nearly finished reading your book. I have stopped to group my thoughts and decided to share the results of reading yours and other books these past several weeks. I must say, you put an excellent picture together that make it easy to understand once the heart is open for that. I appreciate the time you took to write all of this, and want you to know you have helped me immensely understand a difficult processing of information. It has also given me courage now to stand up for myself and prepare to move on. Whatever is in store is mystery now, but will appear daily bit by bit. Thanks again" "I am so pleased for you - delighted that things are flourishing. Your writing has helped me more than I can say, and if I lived in the USA I would definitely attend one of your programs!" "The deepest spirit in me thanks the deepest spirit in you. I had begun the work before I received your book and tapes, however, they have been immensely helpful in helping me get through the darkest time in my life (to this moment), to recognize the opportunity to finally break out of my half-alive, scared to fly utterly walled-in wounded child. . . Your insights and sharing have played an important part in my healing and hopefully the healing of my marriage." "The door for healing was opened for me through your personal sharing. In November, 2004 was the beginning of grieivng over the child wounds, at age 68 with 29 years of recovery. I could not even begin to accept this process until I realize my concept of God had many distortions and continues to evolve. Then I was able to face my many hurt feelings with acceptance. I kept away from mother for about six months. 2005, Christmas time, mother got sick and I was able to show up with 'real compassion" and to my surprise I had been responsing to her as an adult rather than from a lost little girl. Yes, I had my own feelings, but I knew they were mine without shame. And it has been uphill since. I was asked to be the speaker on Mother's day at AA's anniversay. I invited mother and she has agreed. I never invited her before. I am ready to share my experiences, strength and hope without blaming myself or her, but being responsible for my own sickness. Now I am almost 70 and she is 94. I have been able to say to her, "Thank you for Everything" Yes, this process affected all of my relationships with people. Anxious, Yes, at times because I don't yet trust it, but I am getting stronger with my focus on where my help really comes from. The one door opened many other doors from many resources that helped me to continue to moving forward. I call these surpises...Divine surprises and they keep showing up. Robert, God bless you and Thank You." "I've seen your website read the section "Inner Child Healing". I can only say that it is a great work you have made there. I've learned many things and began to see myself and others in a different way." "Thank you so much for this web site and your journey into full recovery, 1 day at a time. Thank You Robert for you insights and sharing your journey." "I came across your site and found it to be amazingly uplifting. Excellent material. Site is fabulous" "I would like to thank you for the level of deep honesty and self acceptance you are showing in this site...I am falling apart as I read it. Thank you for your dedication and wisdom." "Several weeks ago I was seeking information on the internet. I am grateful I found your website. A. What I have learned over the past 22 years of concious recovery and healing through so many agencies, therapist, books, etc were beautifully summed up on your website. I needed to have these truths reitterated, my sure state had been shaken up. B. A man I have been involved with has displayed wounded soul syndrome and my best efforts were futile in a concious change in his belief system and behavior. Your website eloquently spoke in a genltle loving way what I knew he would benefit should he endeavor to explore the truths you present. He has since purchased the book and tapes, which I have listened to and THANK YOU! He has been in contact with you. He and I have and will discuss what we learn from your book." "Today was my first visit to the website, and I must say that I appreciate your opinions and your gentleness of approach that you use. Your writing shows a deep respect for people and their belief systems which is not usually found in the areas of faith and teaching. . . May God Bless you in your work." "Love your site! Thanks for sharing so much info!" "I have been searching your web site for the example you give of the little boy who remained unfazed in a group meeting in which his mother was crying. (Emotional Incest - emotionally devastating child abuse) He had learned it was okay to cry; he wasn't responsible for his mother's feelings. The example popped into my head as I was thinking over the events of the past few days and suddenly realizing what a profound transformation in my response to life has occurred in a very few short years. . . Day after day, Robert, things have worked out in surprising ways. But, it is the deep-down change within for which I am most grateful, the feeling that I am standing up on the inside, while my inner children play. I am so grateful for the adventure my life has become. I feel like I have crossed a threshold. It's now midnight~and I hear a blackbird singing in the dead of night. Gratefully ~and Flying" "Your site is fantastic. I have turn on everyone I know to it. It says what is happening. I may not like what I read, but then thatís why Iím looking at your site. To get some insight as to why my life seams so in the toilet." "Thanks for writing the book. It helped to open my mind up to the process." "Hi! My name is ______. I'm not religious at all and coming across your website was purely by chance of me "googling" for more insight to the case of Jesus being married. Now, that I didn't know till I read Dan Brown's "The Da Vinci Code". Curiosity got the better of me and I wanted to know more facts.... The piece you wrote in regards to Jesus & Mary - if it was true, I would believe it readily because that would be ultra normal for a mortal to have feelings. I would rather believe Jesus as being a very kind and understanding soul . . . I am glad to have found your site because to me it feels I'm on neutral ground. I find now when Jesus is being referred to is more human like to me than a God - does that make sense? . . . it brought tears to my eyes (or, I was just to sensitive a bit emotional - typical woman traits). All I wanted to say, it has been enlightening and I am very lucky I came across your site." "i just wanted to thank you for the wonderful site that you have created. as a recovering catholic and sufferer of PTSD from child abuse issues and a lot of un fortunate events throughout my life, you are of great help to me and my effort to begin a healing journey at the age of 56." "I have written to you before and you answered me, for which I am extremely grateful. Your website and your book, along with Charles Whitfield's "Healing the Inner Child" and "Memories and Abuse" books have been amazing recovery tools for me. . . . It is as if you talk to the soul." "Thank you for your information, it helped in healing me with-in. . . Thanks again, I read to keep me focused on building my self esteem." "I have found your web-page and am enjoying it immensely. I feel I could have written it myself. I am a recovering alcoholic and addict. I have been through numerous treatment and counseling. I am recovering from everything that pulls me away from God basically. I agree with all that I have read on your page. Especially the belief that you can't bring someone to a place you yourself have never been. . . I have found only one person in North Dakota so far that I trust and is on the same path. I know hundreds in 12 step programs and so few have found the wisdom you seem to have acquired." "I discovered your site tonight. I love it: I have eagerly read much of the material. Thank you so much." "About a month ago I ordered your book after realizing with the help of my therapist that the reason I had tolerated an abusive relationship for 4 years has do to with my dependent personality. Prior to that relationship I was following a spiritual path of mediation and self realization that was incredibly fulfilling for me and so one would think I wouldnít have allowed it much less taken my young son on the journey with me, but I did. Your book has helped me with the clarity that we are spiritual beings having human experiences. That one message alone has helped tremendously in my healing. It has leveled the playing field from Hitler to Mother Teresa inside my soul, helped me let go of a good amount of anger and realize that what happened, happened for a reason. Your book has a beauty of simplicity and honesty along with a few human and well chosen expletives that resonate deeply with me and shall be a resource for my ongoing healing over this life time. Thank you so much again! I have already begun to recommend your book to others with different struggles still possessing (of course) their own wounded inner child." "I am enjoying your website. I learn so much there. Thank you for creating it." "Having just read a few excerpts from your book on-line, I've found them to be a source of consolation and significant revelation to me about my emotional issue." "I've already read it/listened to all the tapes. I'm so glad you chose to share your insight. I have really been helped by itÖso far, so good. I actually heard my inner voice speak to me yesterday afternoon for the first time in many, many years. I was laying in bed taking a nap with my son. I've just recently been going through a very bad divorce. My voice told me that I almost wasted my life in despair and self-abuse. It said that this is my second chance. What a gift. I go through pain and crying every day these days. But with the type of insight your words (and others) are giving me, I can at least understand what is going on with me. I feel like I truly am healing. I feel like I visualize myself as the type of wounded soldier walking back from the battlefield with bloody head bandages, crutches, bruises, casts, etc. It helps me remember that this is how I feel, and I need to treat myself just like I am wounded. It helps me remember to take my healing seriously." "Thank you for your incredible guidance in to Co-Dependancy through your book and your letters that comes always as a big unexpected surprise!" "You expression of your truth has helped me in a life where help was rare and valued." "Your site is absolutely wonderful!! I came across it when I was looking for some reading material to recommend to my cousin, who is unfortunately still in denial (I am trying to help him break his defense mechanisms in order for him to save himself from our dysfunctional family as well). Since you have experienced the happiness of finally seeing the truth yourself, I am sure you know how painful it can be when people that you care for are unable to see the truth and to care for themselves and for their inner children (because they are scared of acknowledging their suffering and the ego is maintaining the illusion of control)." "I got your book yesterday and could not put it down. I'm in chapter 3 now and it is so right on! This is the first book I have found that has most all of my beliefs, higher truths consolidated into one book. . . . Have you tried to send it to oprah? Thank you!!!!! so much...." "I love your writing. I can't tell you how many times your pages have been the calm, safe place I seek out when the storm is raging. . . Thanks for all your help" "That night I looked up codependend on my pc and came to a list of 20 signs of codependency I have at least 19 of them then I came to your web site and started reading I sat here with tears streaming down my face as I read thru the pages. I ordered your book and am wanting with all my heart to find me to step towards my recovery to find me who got lost so many years along the way." "Wow. I have been reading on your web site for quite some time and ordered your first book......... Many aspects of my life as a 42 year old female have come full circle over the last year or so. I am currently going thru a divorce from a marriage of 23 years from a codependent. Your book and website has given me such insite to my own dysfunctional upbringing as well as his. I am much better and just now feeling alittle comfortable in my own skin. Thank you so much for your enlightenment." "Dear Robert, Your work has divinely touched and spiritually inspired me......I came to your site in my desperate hour and found so many truths, I couldn't hide anymore. I made the choice, to face the fear, look inside through the darkness and pain, to feel who I was and why. . . . You have given me much healing through your generous gifts that I would like to share with you my love, appreciation and gratitude. I am sending a donation ___. Thank you so very much. Blessings and Abundance Always" (Donations to the cause / spiritual Tithes are always appreciated: Love Offerings.)"   More Articles... j_August 13, 2006 i_November 13, 2006 h_February 28, 2007 g_May 20, 2007 << Start < Prev 1 2 3 Next > End >> Page 1 of 3